Most women hate flowers sent to them anonymously. At least that's been my experience at Fly Me To The Moon Florists, They absolutely hate it!
They call asking for the name of the sender. Or at least a description. I never give it to them.
Why do men send flowers to women anonymously anyway? Perhaps they saw it in some movie. I don't know.
I try to encourage men to sign their names, but they won't. I ask how they will get credit for sending the flowers. Seems they're not as interested in the result as they are in the gesture.
They make me take solemn oaths never to divulge the name of the sender. And I don't. After all, my allegiance is to the guy who bought the flowers.
It never occurred to me that many of these men don't even know the women they are sending the flowers to. They see them working somewhere and they get awestruck. Then spend goo gobs of money on flower arrangements.
Now don't get me wrong. I don't mind them spending the goo gobs of money buying flowers at our shop. But they give our delivery guy so much trouble.
Just the other day, a women stood in the middle of a doctor's office:
- demanding to know the name of the sender
- shouting that she did not have or want a boyfriend
- refusing to accept the flowers
If you are ever the recipient of an unwanted gift of flowers. I beg you to do just one little thing. Take the flowers!
You can brighten the day of someone else with them.
- give them to the first person you see or
- distribute them to co-workers or
- give them to a stranger on the way home or
- donate them to a hospital, church or non-profit organization
- only as a last resort, gulp, should you actually throw them away.
Whatever you decide, just don't kill the messenger, I mean the flower delivery guy. He's just doing his job. He doesn't know the guy and he doesn't know you. Don't bother asking him any questions. Because he doesn't know the answers.
Just sign the little paper, give him a tip if you want and send him packing.
How would you respond to an anonymous gift of flowers?
Mimi
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That made me laugh! Poor delivery guy...
Posted by: botanical brouhaha | 04/21/2011 at 09:14 AM
Delightful as delivering fresh flowers can be, like everything else, there is the flip side.
Posted by: Mimi | 04/21/2011 at 11:48 AM
maybe guys like to send flowers anonymously because they have a personal reason they want to resolve before revealing themselves to the girl.
Posted by: A guy thinking about sending secret admirer flowers | 02/08/2013 at 02:22 AM
Thanks so much for your comment. I'm sure there are many good reasons guys have for doing it. And I'm convinced that in certain circumstances it can be truly romantic. My post on the subject just shares our experiences on the subject. Happy Valentine's Day!
Posted by: Mimi | 02/08/2013 at 09:43 AM
Girl: Awesome, is in a relationship, strives for attention, works hard to be liked, stresses about life, boyfriend treats her like another score.
Guy: Me, likes her, dont date coworkers, want to make her feel good about herself without jeopardizing work relationship.
Is it so wrong to see her smile? The smile makes my day.
In the military, the saying is: "Deserve no Thanks for doing what's Right"
See, for some of us guys, it's not about what makes me happy. It's about what I can do to make others happy.
Adding my name only adds complications.
Hope this helps you undertand.
Posted by: DD | 02/11/2013 at 08:23 PM
I really appreciate your comment. And I actually do understand the reasons guys do it. You gave several good ones. The post is simply the reaction we've received at our flower shop.from some.Other women just want to know who the flowers are from and get frustrated, because we won't say. Thanks so much for taking the time to respond.
Posted by: Mimi | 02/12/2013 at 01:33 PM